With divorce rate on an ultimate high and so many failed marriages around me, I wondered about the causes of it all. Everyone has their own take on such an issue, but I want to discuss my thoughts on that in hopes of figuring out why so many women find themselves divorced. 0 Marriage is a lifetime commitment between a man and a woman. It is a protection from the evils of this world and a guard against the Shaytan (Satan). God made marriage half the Deen (faith) for a reason and it most definitely is not so that man can use and abuse woman to feel superior. Yet, we find that within our own society, within our own kin that women are used and abused, then thrown aside like nothing. 0 What’s even worse is that the woman is usually the one blamed for the failed marriage! No one ever points fingers towards the men and this goes back to the mentality many have that if women would have only obeyed their husbands, they would have not found themselves divorced. What about those who are conscious of their duties towards their husbands? Why are they categorized with those types of women? And what makes a person automatically assume that the woman is at fault without even thinking that maybe, just maybe, the man is the one who screwed up?1 The problem with our society is that it is plagued with ignorance. In our society, most people focus on the man’s RIGHTS and the woman’s OBLIGATIONS in marriage. What about the man’s OBLIGATIONS and the woman’s RIGHTS in marriage as given in the Quran and the Sunnah of our most beloved Prophet(PBUH)? Why are these ignored?1 I often wonder about the things that run through a man’s mind when he decides to toy with a woman’s honor (sharaf) and reputation. What does he get out of it? How does that benefit or better his life in any way, shape, or form? 0 They think that by instilling fear in their wives, they will insure that their wives will never disobey them…boy are they wrong!!! That only makes the wives hate them more. A woman with self-worth and self-respect will not deal with that type of garbage from any breathing individual…at all…whatsoever; unless she deems herself worthless. In which case, I think she is very sad. 0 Belittling one’s wife does not do anything for a man except reveal his insecurities and lack of confidence in his abilities as a husband. Does he really think that he will gain anything such as respect or admiration? I don’t think so! I think it only makes him look like a fool. 0 I know that there are some decent men out there; but the problem with them is that they make up a very small percentage of the male population and are therefore overshadowed. A lot of men marry women because they will get something out of it (i.e. papers/citizenship and the like); but why do some of them have to put a girl through hell before divorcing her? This is something I never understood. It is appalling. These are my thoughts for now. There’s more that I want to say regarding this issue, but I don’t have the time at the moment…Insha’Allah I will talk more later. Please feel free to comment. I am interested in hearing your thoughts on this matter.