Getting married..Yemeni Styles...Critical Differences

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  1. الشاب عادل

    الشاب عادل قلم ماسي

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    Salaams Everyone, since everyone is becoming with interesting topics to discuss, so i thought for a second

    instead of writing a stupid topic (as most of the time) and then samiah comes along and deletes it, i told myself to be a little useful this time...and be a little serious...and talk about a serious, if not a very touchy topic in all communities...but in our community, abo Yemen that is...it's extremely touchy...

    so i was wondering....where do i begin...and how can i start this.... i look around me, and i see many Yemenis getting married in three different ways -- and here they are
    OLD fashion -- OLD school [harsh]: If you are a guy, your parents pick the girl...you probably be the last the guy to know :D...mabrook ya 3am...if your parents were a little nice..they'll tell you a day before the khetoubah :D ---though if you are a girl, your parents would come to you and tell you...get ready for wearing the deblah[ engagement ring that is] and you're like what deblah ? and they go mabrook habibti ur married :D
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    OLD fashion -- OLD school [ soft]: if you are a guy, your parents would tell you ok. you are to free to marry anyone you want. you have your uncle ahmad's daughter, your uncle sale7's daughter, etc :D and u can pick any of them (hey at least they give you some freedom, appreciate it ) or they tell u, she gotta be from our village and from a family, etc

    if you are a girl....they'd disapprove anyone who comes to ask for your hand until they find the person they want, and then come and ask for your agreement​
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    Moderate Family: if you are a guy.. this is the family where the ask you, do you want that girl...do you want that girl...until u agree with them on one....if you are a girl...they'd see the guy first, analyze him, search him, find the contacts on his phone, his ringtones, and then come and ask u if u agree on him
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    Liberal Family: this kind of family is very rear in the Yemeni culture where they let the children decide for themselves​

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    so after reading my interesting topic, which type of family you fall under? is your family's style different from the mentioned above :rolleyes:please let us know


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  3. عــاهد

    عــاهد مشرف سابق

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    I have a comeback since this topic is about marriage.:D
     
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  5. YemeniQueen

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    LOOOOOOL
    Awesome topic...I like how you broke it down into groups

    My family used to be more like the old fashioned(harsh) kind

    Now, they are "moderate"...thank God...lol hey its an improvement

    :D
     
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  7. عــاهد

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    سلام الله عليكم

    Ok i think my family is moderate.

    If they were not moderate, i would never go back to yemen and marry the person they want me to.
     
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    That's cool

    It's really hard to convince parents sometimes that the person they are presenting to you is not the one. Its even harder for the girls....you men are luckier than we are...be thankful
     
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  11. إبراهيم ناصر

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    I think I am around the OLD fashion -- OLD school [ soft
    and I am happy about it
    :):)
     
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  13. الشاب عادل

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    thank you for passing by and Thank God your parents have improved to the "right" level ;)
     
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  15. الشاب عادل

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    elaborate more please :d
     
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  17. الشاب عادل

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    it's good that you're happy about it -- because many people aren't...and you're lucky they're not the harsh type :)
     
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    my family is under the modurate category

    they gave me the chance to chose, but i played smart on them
    i put the ball in their field, but under my guidance;););)
    they chosed for me the girl of my dream, the one i love

    now i'm the happiest guy
     

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