Rules Of Engagement

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  1. SamiAlganhey

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    RULES OF ENGAGEMENT

    It is permissible prior to proposal that the man sees the woman he intends to marry. Jabir Ibn Abdullah, radhiallahu anhu said concerning his wife, (Before marrying her) I used to hide behind a tree to see her. The Prophet, sallallahu alayhe wa sallam, said, When one of you intends to marry a woman if he is able to look at what would induce him to marry her he should do so. (Abu Dawud)

    There are, however, rules concerning seeing the woman, that they both should respect:

    The mans intention of marriage should be sincere. He should not seek to meet the woman until he is satisfied about her other attributes such as her deen, morality, and character, in such a way that he is inclined to marry her, and looking at her is for him the last step toward this decision.

    He should first send a woman from his family whom he trusts, to see the girl and describe her to him.

    The girls father should not allow the man proposing to her to look at her unless he is completely satisfied with him.

    The girls father should not hide from the proposing man any serious faults his daughter may have.

    The man is allowed to see only the face and the hands of the woman he intends to marry. If he wants specific information about her physical appearance, he may send one of his mahram women to inquire about it, and describe it to him. There is no sin on him to look intently at her to confirm his desire to marry her.

    He does not have to ask her permission to look at her, it is rather better that he does it without her knowledge if he can. This way, if for any reason, he changes his mind this will not hurt her feelings.

    Even after the man and the woman accept each other for marriage and thus are engaged, they should remember that they are still considered strangers (non-mahram) to each other and that what is unlawful to the non-mahram is unlawful to them. This especially pertains to: looking at each other, being alone together, and going out together. Their relation to each other changes only after the marriage contract is executed.
     
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  3. Funny

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    I was wondering why we should hurt their feeling if we did not find them suitable or attractive.
    It is silly when she come to me as a simple in order to whether accept her or not. However, I’ve been told that the prophet’s companions asked to see the women they wonted to marry face to face. And I’m not sure of this but some of them asked to see their legs.
    I think I’ve to ask about this point.
    Anyway. Thanks for such information that we should be familiar with.

    Thank you

    Yours.
     
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  5. SamiAlganhey

    SamiAlganhey عضو متميّز

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    First, thanks for visiting
    Second, the words that i said came from a powerful, smart wise man, that's why I didn't put my name at the END, Because those weren't my words, But I do hope they WERE(lol)
    And the man that came up with this, got most of these words from the Quran, and he's REALLY religious.
    but, about the Legs, part. I am sure thats not true maybe you should ask more People. Maybe you were just talking to the wrong people at the wrong time, No offense buddy. Thats just what I think. 1
    But stay smart Buddy, and thanks again for visiting my post

    with all do respect
    Regards


    [gdwl]AKA
    Sami Alganhey
    سامي الجانحي[/[/gdwl]size]
     
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  7. nansai9

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    useful information
    we are in need for such as this data
    we still need the rules for the following topics
    1- marriage 2- divorcement
     
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  9. SamiAlganhey

    SamiAlganhey عضو متميّز

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    أسد الله
    Thanks for Replying, and for stopping by
    I will try to get the Info. that you asked for. But i'm kind of Busy these days.

    Thanks Again

    with all do respect
    Regards

    [gdwl]AKA
    Sami Alganhey
    سامي الجانحي [/gdwl]
     
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  11. عمر سعيد

    عمر سعيد عضو نشيط

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    Do you know somthing ... ???

    when I am reading the head line of the post i thought you are going to discuss the Stupid American Film (( The Rules of Engagment )) which give the world a bad picture about YEMEN and the people who have saw the film will think that we are a group of Terrorist and killers.

    maybe it was a misunderstand.

    والله من وراء القصد :)
     
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  13. SamiAlganhey

    SamiAlganhey عضو متميّز

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    who are you??1
    And who do you think you are?2

    An
    d yes Maybe your right. You did misunderstood me. Maybe your SLOW. And forgot about your family and love one's and Your Home Land YEMEN. EVEN though I was Born Here. I on the other hand Still respect and obey the Muslim Rules. Also I pry 5 times a day And believe in ALLAH. 3

    Maybe your different. If so, Don't reply to any of my posts, In a negative way. Unless You wake up and realize where you come from. And ignore the thinks others have to say about Muslims. Because Not Every Muslim is a Terrorist and killer. Think about STUPID...4

    THINK BEFORE YOU WRITE
    Its what you say that makes a Difference . Not What you don't Say. DUMMY. 5

    Regards

    [gdwl]AKA
    Sami Alganhey
    سامي الجانحي

    [/gdwl]
     
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  15. عمر سعيد

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    حياك الله أخي يامس الجانحي ... بس يبدو إنك فهمتنا غلط ... (( أو فلنقل سوء فهم )) ربما بسبب عدم ممارستي للغة إلا في إطار تخصصي ... فنقلت الألفاظ دون الاهتمام بصياغة الكلام ... وهذا ما أظن أنه ولد لديك انطباع خاطيء حول ما كنت أريد توضيحه ...

    الحكاية وما فيها إننا بمجرد ما رأيت العنوان تلقائيا تذكرت الفيلم الأمريكي The Rules of Engagment (( وذلك من قبل حتى أن أفتح الموضوع )) فتوقعت أن موضوع المناقشة حول الفيلم الغبي (( وأظن أن مشاركتي السابقة كانت تنعت الفيلم بالغباء لا أنت ... فتأمل (1) !!! )) الذي جعل اليمن تبدو بصورة مجموعة من الهمج الإرهابييين ... فحبيت فقط أن أشارك في الموضوع لإنني شاهدت الفيلم ولدي تعليق على الموضوع ... ففوجئت بأن الموضوع يتحدث في وادي آخر ... فلذلك نقلت لك اندهاشي وانطباعي في تلك اللحظة لاغير.

    ملاحظة : بالتأكيد لا بد من أنك إنسان ملتزم تؤمن بالله وتصلي والدليل واضح من خلال استشهادك بقصة عبدالله بن جابر (( على الرغم أنني لم أشر إلى أنك لا تصلي ولا تؤمن بالله ... ولكن يبدو أنه سوء فهم آخر ... فتأمل (2) !!! ))

    ملاحظة : مشاركتي السابقة كانت اول مشاركة لي في قسم اللغة الإنجليزية ... ولكن يبدو أنني لو استمريت فسأتسبب لنفسي ولغيري بكارثة ... (( على العموم حصل خير ... وآسف على أي سوء فهم )) ... وهذه آخر مشاركة بإذن الله (( ولو أنها باللغة العربية :) ))

    والله من وراء القصد :)
     
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  17. ISLAND_LOVE

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    don't worry man SamiAlganhey is very kindly and lovely
    he will not take this point from you
    he just miss understood you as well as me but when you explain it we understand that
    so welcome to english forum and you and you stell our brother

    last thing could you mind explain to us what is that film about
     
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  19. SamiAlganhey

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